Having a healthy and lovely child is almost the common aspiration of every family. In the minds of many people, a family is considered complete only with children. However, for couples who want but cannot have children, children have become an indescribable pain in their hearts. Due to various reasons leading to infertility, they have gone through a difficult and helpless journey on the path of seeking children. After all other methods are exhausted and still unable to conceive smoothly, "in vitro fertilization" has become the last choice for many infertile couples. Although this is the last 'life-saving straw', not every couple can catch it.

Listening to the difficult journey of these two couples undergoing "in vitro fertilization" surgery, it is not difficult to perceive the various pains and hardships that these couples have endured during the process of seeking children.

Four failed IVF attempts, but the originally happy family is facing disintegration

Sun Gang and Su Yun experienced the pain of "in vitro fertilization" failure for the first time. However, Xiao Wei has experienced this pain four times.

Over the past three years, Xiao Wei's life has been spent undergoing "in vitro fertilization" surgery - failure - acceptance - failure... repeated four times. Not to mention the physical pain and financial burden, the mental pressure made her gasp for breath. After a while, Xiao Wei is preparing to undergo another "in vitro baby" surgery, which will be her last chance. If she doesn't succeed again, she can only choose to give up. And her family may also face the risk of disintegration as a result.

Xiao Wei is almost 36 years old this year, and she has been married to her husband for 8 years. Both work in a city and county in western Hainan. Since their wedding day, the two have been wanting to have a child. Because Xiao Wei's husband is an only child, her father-in-law and mother-in-law have been looking forward to holding a grandson for many years. But after more than two years of marriage, Xiao Wei's belly has never bulged. Seeking medical advice everywhere in the local area, I used all kinds of folk remedies and spent tens of thousands of money, but there was still no effect.

Finally, the two of them went to a large hospital for a thorough examination and found that both parties had problems. The male had low sperm quality, while the female had blocked fallopian tubes. At the suggestion of the doctor, they finally decided to undergo "in vitro fertilization" surgery.

To perform this surgery, multiple examinations are required in the early stages, followed by more than ten days of injection with an egg stimulating needle, followed by egg and sperm collection. The sperm and eggs are then placed in a test tube and cultured for 3-5 days, before the developed embryo is transferred to the woman's uterus. Because their home is not in Haikou, every time these surgical procedures are performed, Xiao Wei and her husband can only stay with friends or relatives. The fatigue of running back and forth is not to mention, the psychological pressure is even more unbearable.

What makes Xiao Wei even more heartbroken is that every time he does it with hope, he always returns disappointed. I did it four times in a row, but it all ended in failure. The medical expenses alone cost over 50000 yuan, and with other expenses, the couple's savings over the years have already been depleted, and sometimes they have to rely on their parents' support for their livelihood.

Although the grandparents did not express much resentment in front of Xiao Wei, Xiao Wei could feel their coldness. Xiao Wei understood that it was not their fault. The discussions around her not only brought invisible pressure to herself, but also to her father-in-law, mother-in-law, and husband. Due to the hopeless pursuit of a son and the pressure from family and friends, Xiao Wei's relationship with her husband has become increasingly flat. The communication between husband and wife is decreasing, and it seems that there is nothing else to say except for the surgery. Xiao Wei also overheard that her mother-in-law had expressed her intention to divorce her husband.

With last hope, Xiao Wei's parents decided to have Xiao Wei undergo another surgery. No matter whether it's successful or not, I won't do it anymore. Parents are afraid that Xiao Wei will run out of money and family when he runs out of money.

After two failures, completely give up adopting a child and accept another kind of happiness

Looking back on all the experiences she had over three years ago in order to have a child, Rodin used a word to describe it: "It's unbearable to look back." Fortunately, despite all the hardships, she and her husband ultimately failed to have their own child. However, they adopted a very healthy and lovely little boy last year, and the arrival of this child brought unprecedented joy and happiness to the family. This kind of happiness also satisfies them.

Rodin and her husband were college classmates. In the second year after graduating from college, they got married and formed a happy small family. Because they were young, they wanted to enjoy their world for a few more years, play for a few more years, and after 7 years of marriage, the two never had children. It wasn't until three years ago that the two felt that all the conditions were ripe and they needed to add a small member to the family, so they put the "education plan" on the agenda.

But after a year of implementing the 'Education Plan', Rodin still shows no signs of pregnancy. The two subsequently underwent multiple examinations at multiple hospitals within and outside the province, but no abnormalities were found. Later, Rodin told the doctor that he had a case of peritonitis when he was a child, which led the doctor to discover that although Rodin's fallopian tubes were open, the peritonitis may have left a sequela of tubal adhesions.

Finally, the cause was identified, and Rodin underwent laparoscopic examination at this hospital, preparing to undergo fallopian tube dissection surgery. But during the surgery, due to the doctor's careless operation, Rodin was infected. Rodin's previously intact fallopian tubes were also damaged. The later treatment took a long time, but after the treatment was completed, Rodin was informed that her chances of natural conception were still very small.

Helplessly, Rodin and her husband can only choose assisted reproductive technology. But artificial insemination was still unsuccessful. IVF has become their last hope. But the heavens still did not favor Rodin, and even failed to undergo two "in vitro fertilization" surgeries. Originally, Rodin planned to continue with the surgery for a third time, but her heartbroken husband couldn't bear to let his wife suffer endlessly and decided to give up the surgery.

Later, after discussing with both parents, the couple decided to adopt a child. At the end of last year, after multiple efforts, the couple was fortunate enough to adopt a healthy and lovely baby just a few months old. Nowadays, the baby has turned one year old and is very lively and lovely, bringing infinite joy to the family.

Rodin said that after more than two years of treatment and seeking children, he has spent a lot of money financially, and both himself and his husband have become exhausted. At that time, I couldn't give up my job and had surgery at the same time, which caused me to be very nervous. Before each surgery, she felt a lot of pressure, always thinking that it was because of her own problems that she couldn't fulfill her husband and parents' wishes. The greater the pressure, the more nervous she became, and the lower the success rate of the surgery.

Fortunately, Rodin's husband and mother-in-law were very considerate and often comforted him. My mother-in-law said that it's not that she refuses to give birth, it's something she can't do. Rodin has always been grateful for his family's understanding.

Little knowledge:

In vitro fertilization (IVF) refers to the process of removing eggs and sperm separately, fertilizing them in vitro (culture dish), developing into embryos, and then replanting them back into the mother's uterus. Its medical term is in vitro fertilization - embryo transfer. This is the only choice for couples who become infertile due to blocked fallopian tubes, and can also be used to treat infertility caused by other reasons that are not effectively treated with other methods.

At present, the success rate of "in vitro fertilization" is gradually increasing worldwide, with an average of 20-30%, and centers with good technology can reach 40-60%. On average, each embryo has a 10-20% chance of developing into a successful pregnancy. The pregnancy rate is closely related to age, with women under 35 having a higher pregnancy rate and women over 35 having a lower pregnancy rate.